What does married feel like? Well, to tell you the truth, I'm not sure yet. But an awful lot of people are asking me about this feeling that I am guessing should start appearing soon like subtle flu symptoms. "Do you feel different?" "Do you feel married?" That's sort of like asking someone to change her shirt and asking if the outfit feels different. Well, yes, I know our relationship has a new outfit on now. But no, I don't feel something special when I'm making copies or answerning emails on the office. Or riding home on the train. Or getting my morning cup of coffee. Except. . . .
Except that now I am doing all these things MARRIED. I am a married woman ordering the nonfat grande wet cappucino. A married woman making copies and spending too much work time on Facebook. And yes, there is certainly something to be said for the novelty and newness of doing something for the first time as a married person.
But I guess the moral of the story is a good one. I don't feel all that different because I think of our wedding as a day when we publicly reinforced what we already felt. And renewed the feelings we already had. I think the past six years of working together to build our relationship up to our wedding day was the real process of getting married. If you ask me if I feel differently today than I did when Adam and I went bowling for the first time back in 2003, the answer is a resounding OF COURSE.
But as for my first few days of married life as the glitter of the wedding week simmers down, well, it feels just like me and Adam, just like always. And that's something that I feel good about.
Except that now I am doing all these things MARRIED. I am a married woman ordering the nonfat grande wet cappucino. A married woman making copies and spending too much work time on Facebook. And yes, there is certainly something to be said for the novelty and newness of doing something for the first time as a married person.
But I guess the moral of the story is a good one. I don't feel all that different because I think of our wedding as a day when we publicly reinforced what we already felt. And renewed the feelings we already had. I think the past six years of working together to build our relationship up to our wedding day was the real process of getting married. If you ask me if I feel differently today than I did when Adam and I went bowling for the first time back in 2003, the answer is a resounding OF COURSE.
But as for my first few days of married life as the glitter of the wedding week simmers down, well, it feels just like me and Adam, just like always. And that's something that I feel good about.
